It’s so easy to get caught up in the world wind of responsibilities. Of relationships. Of friends and jobs and projects.
It’s not always the easiest to say no to someone, or turn down some awesome plans because you feel a little bit run down and feel you need some ‘me-time’. You may even feel a little guilty for turning down said plans, amirite?
The key to personal responsibility and self-fulfillment is self-care.
Because, when you are happy, the people around you are happy.
Relationships become stronger, you believe that you are worthy, and it increases your self-awareness and compassion.
For me, I haven’t always been great at self-care. I haven’t always put myself first. I haven’t always listened to the voice in the back of my mind that told me to stay in instead of drink, or eat a salad instead of a burrito even though I KNOW that eating the salad will make me feel better.
But, well, life. It happens.
A conscious week of self-care
Because of this lack of self-care, I spent five glorious days this week, bathed in a self-care routine.
I listed out everything I felt was important to my self-care:
- drink six water bottles / day
- drink one green smoothie / day
- read 20-30 min / day
- do yoga and / or HIIT / day
- eat entirely plant based: no wheat or dairy
- morning ritual: wash hands + face and brush teeth
- morning ritual: pull Wisdom Card for daily guidance
From there, I literally scheduled it all out. Each night, I would plan the next day’s schedule, depending on what was going on. I had to fit in time for work, time for researching, and just overall free time.
The best part is that you give your brain the exact process to go through, so it becomes super easy to follow through. I’ve heard some motivational bloggers write that it’s good to only have three goals per day, but this worked wonderfully for me to establish some new rituals.
My schedule looked a little something like this:
- pull wisdom card
- drink tea + read 30 min
- water bottle #1
- green smoothie
- water bottle #2
- yoga / HIIT
- lunch + supplements
- water bottle #3
- work – 4 hours
- water bottle #4
- meditate [again, or if I skipped in the morning]
- plan tomorrow’s schedule
- read / chill out
This was a pretty standard day. The big thing I was focusing on is drinking more water and supporting my body by eating clean and taking my supplements.
Show yourself what’s possible
Now, you don’t need to enjoy routine to get the most out of this self-care routine. The point is to show yourself what’s possible. To show yourself what you enjoy and what you don’t enjoy. What I do for self-care could be completely different to what you do. It’s all about exploring who you are and what feels good for you.
Mind – Body – Spirit
While figuring out the schedule I wanted to follow, I kept mind-body-spirit in the back of my head. I wanted something that not only focused on my mind, but also on my spirit. I usually neglect my body when it comes to moving it and working out, so that was also a major part of the week.
If you’re planning out your own conscious week, day, or month of self-care, I’d highly recommend that you include a few things that feed each of these.
How to stay committed to your conscious week of self-care
If you need to switch up your schedule, do it! If you need to tone it down a bit after the first couple days, then do that, too.
Your schedule is your schedule.
It can change, just like life.
So, flow with how you feel.
A lot of it’s new, what’s on your list. You’re consciously choosing to do unfamiliar stuff.
This stuff is for you. Your mind-body-spirit. Embrace it. Do not feel guilty — and if you do feel guilty, there is probably some forgiveness and healing that needs to happen there.
There were days where I realized that six water bottles was too much, so I brought it down to four. Another day, I was exhausted from some of the healing meditations (they work deeeeeep, so it’s important to rest and hydrate!), so instead of doing HIIT, I took a nap. I also consciously chose not to be upset with myself for not following through with it to the T. I let it go, right in the moment.
Ask someone you trust to keep you accountable
The point is that you need people by your side when you’re trying something new. And, especially when it comes to changing you habits and choices for the better. Find someone supportive and check in with them. Let them know what you’re up to. Maybe they’ll even join you!
I didn’t ask for explicit help from my friend Jenysha, but I checked in with her daily to let her know about the conscious choices I was making. Her responses were always something like, “YOU GO GIRL”, or, “WORK IT!”
Lesson: if support is needed, go where the love is.
It’s all an experiment, this self-care routine thing.
By the end of the week, you’re gonna have a pretty good glimpse into what you need in your self-care routine.
It may be as simple as a ritual of washing your hands and face, brushing your teeth, and doing a quick meditation.
It may be more involved than that.
Whatever you choose for you is perfect.
Embrace that your self-care routine is just as unique and special as you.
When the conscious week of self-care is over
Remind yourself of what you learned. Continue to schedule things in, if you need to. Identify what feels good for you. And most importantly? Love yourself through it all.
With a self-care routine, you invite more love and happiness because you yourself are showing more love and happiness to yourself. Embrace that. Figure out what works for you
Enjoy the time you have for yourself. Remember that you deserve this. You are worthy of taking this time to yourself. No one else is going to remind you to drink water, eat clean, or meditate. That’s all a part of personal responsibility, self-care, and conscious living.
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