This is the fourth lesson in the 5 lessons in 5 weeks for creative + intentional living. Each week, I’ll be sending an email and posting to the blog, so pick and choose which of these practices feel good to do for you. If you don’t vibe with this one, that’s cool… there’s more coming your way, soon If you want these directly to your email, sign up here.
Writing what you most need to hear is a very simple way to reframe a current situation to help you feel better. It can take all but 2 minutes, but totally change your frame of mind. The best part? All you need is a piece of paper, a pen, and your creativity. Collect your materials and let’s creatively transform your mind…
If you’ve created the affirmation booklet from the first lesson in this series, you probably have an idea about what your biggest roadblocks in life are that keep you from living happy and fulfilled. It focuses on transforming your negative beliefs into positive ones.
But, what do you do when you don’t feel like going too deep, but you need a practice that makes you feel better and more positive?
Writing what you most need to hear is a really useful practice when you’re feeling:
Often, we put validation into other people’s hands. We go to other people to tell us what we’re experiencing is OK, and sometimes this is hugely beneficial, especially if it comes in the form of a therapist or other non-biased source. BUT, a lot of the times we can just sort it out on our own!
LET’S GET STARTED…
Grab a notebook and at the top of a blank page, write out the statement: “What I most need to know”.
This beautiful blank page before you is where you write down everything you need to know to feel better in this moment. Target in on a specific situation, not necessarily your entire life. What’s happening now that makes you feel ungrounded?
Imagine that situation and write down all the kind and compassionate statements you can remind yourself of in this moment.
If you have a hard time thinking of something to write, imagine someone who’s been inspiring, helpful and encouraging throughout your life: what would they say right now?
Write that down.
For me, I usually envision my aunt. She’s always been a huge source of inspiration for me, so I channel her positivity and kindness. I recently did this exercise and this is what I came up with:
I am innocent. I did what I could. I am honest + kind. I am positive and always looking for creative solutions in life. The solutions out of my control are not always resolved in a negative way.
Phew. That feels better.
And, that’s the goal, right?
Yes, yes it is!
WHEN YOU’RE DONE…
Hang it up, or keep it closed in your notebook.
Mine is written on a scrap piece of paper on my table.
In fact, I wrote on top of what was already there… and, eventually, I’ll probably recycle this piece of paper.
If you feel you need to hang onto yours, cool. If not, toss it.
CREATING ADDITIONAL AFFIRMATIONS…
If you’ve uncovered some stuff that you feel needs more work, consider creating affirmations for it to reframe your beliefs. I’ve written quite a bit about affirmations, which you can peek here.
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What’s something you need to work through? Any recent feelings of confusion, fear, or anxiety that could use a little reframe?
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